The first lick is the sweetest
Actually, I’m not sure that’s true. Maybe the sweetest is the second lick, after the flavor has been recognized by the taste buds. Or it might be the seventh, after the complex intermingling of tastes have seemed to infuse the entire mouth, and the tongue can’t stop itself from reaching for an eighth…
But in this case, I’m using “first lick” as a metaphor for my first blog post. And first this is, and sweet it is as well. You who might be reading it don’t know this yet, but I consider myself quite the technophobe. As I got closer to actually writing the book that this blog relates to, I heard about how, in order to try to sell my book, I really should have a ‘web presence.’ “Web presence?!?” I screeched. “What the hell is that?!?” And so friends who write, or who know about social media and marketing, took me back to school.
Oh, the angst, and the tearing of figurative hair (figurative because, as a mature woman, I know better than to deliberately compromise my own crown of glory.) But eventually, with the help of friends, I was able to turn the techie part over to the techies, in order to do one of the things that I do best, which is to write.
And so this blog is about topics that interest me, some of which will be found in Licking the Spoon, the book I’m working on. Licking the Spoon uses that complex intermingling of the flavors of food and sex in order to explore the mysterious connections between human health, mood, intimacy and relationship. It includes original recipes, many of them international, paired with erotic scenarios that play with the varied elements of our fears, and our desires. It follows the stages of relationship from being comfortable with ourselves, to establishing intimacy with a lover, to exploring ecstasy together, through meeting the challenges that love inevitably brings. Reading it has been likened to peeling the layers of an onion, but I think of it more as gently separating the folds of a persimmon, in order to reach the most intense sweetness that resides, as yet untasted, inside.
But enough about the book; I’ll be sharing more about the book as it, and this blog, unfold. So that you can decide whether you want to continue reading (and I hope you do), here are some of the topics that I’ll be touching upon. Some may be in the book, and some may not, but all are things that I am interested in, and that in one way or another have brought me to this point. The short list is in my list of blog topics. The longer list includes: mood, food, cooking, diet, recipes, brain chemistry, nutrition, health; women’s sexuality, male sexuality, eroticism, pleasure, ecstasy, sexual problems, therapies; relationships, communication, emotions, intimacy, commitment, challenges, love; plants, animals, biology, ecosystems, air, water, sustainability, planetary wealth; writing, reading, poetry, articles, novels, social media, words, and ideas.
Before I close, I must give a nod to the song whose title I borrowed from: “The First Cut Is the Deepest.” I just liked the way it sounded in my title, but as I’m thinking about it, it of course conveys that notable sense of ‘firsts.’ In the song, I believe, the first cut was the beginning of possibly many emotional scars. In my book and blog, the only ‘cut’ one is likely to find may involve slicing into the fresh fruits and vegetables that are going to feed the delicate balance between your body and brain, or the psychic surgeries one might perform in order to let go of past wounds and move forward in our ability to experience self-acceptance, intimacy and joy.
I must also thank some of the friends who have supported me in this endeavor: Biologist and author Susan Tweit, my writing mentor and fellow blogger at Walking Nature Home; sex therapist Vena Blanchard, my close friend, compatriot in mischief, and fellow web wrestler at www.venablanchard.com; and techie Jeramie Jones, who has been called, among other things, Master of Time and Space (but apparently not to his face). There are many others, and I’m sure their names, or at least their secret identities, will come up in future blogs. And thanks to you who have just taken the time to read my first post! Care to follow?
44 thoughts on “The first lick is the sweetest”
I hope I’m referred to as Ted Higgins….and not Turd Hooligan. All my best to you Lynda.
I’ll try to remember that! Thanks for the support, Ted … er, Todd.
Nice to see you on line. I enjoyed reading your first lick! Great job. keep writitng
Hopefully I have quite a few more licks in me! 🙂 Thanks for following, Sherry!
Woo-hoo! And a good read, too. I knew you had it in you to have a “web presence,” and I’m so glad you didn’t tear out any of your hair in getting here. Thanks for the shout-out–it looks like I’m in some pretty great company. How goes the book?
I’m glad you enjoyed it, Susan! And believe me, it would not be happening without your ongoing guidance and encouragement.
I can’t wait for the book! What a great topic!
Thanks, Heidi! I’m excited to finally be able to move forward on it!
Way to go!!!! Can’t wait for my signed copy as this is sure to make the “New York Times Bestselling” list. And… I’ll be sure to always lick that spoon 🙂
Lynda… I can’t wait to read more… and more…. you are an amazing woman, friend, mentor and of course… writer!!! This is my first time “blogging”… please forgive me if I am being little conservative in this message… I just have so much to say about this first post…
Wow!!! I am ready to delight myself with your words from your book (just to quote you from the paragraph above, as you mentioned) “…[the] complex intermingling of the flavors of food and sex in order to explore the mysterious connections between human health, mood, intimacy and relationship… paired with erotic scenarios that play with the varied elements of our fears, and our desires…. the stages of relationship from being comfortable with ourselves, to establishing intimacy with a lover, to exploring ecstasy together, through meeting the challenges that love inevitably brings.”… Lynda, how exciting!!! how exotic and sensual!!! It is real and it makes us think… Hummm!!!
My friend… Congratulations!!! Naluce
Well, I’m kind of new to blogging myself, Naluce – therefore wondering why there were so few comments on my posts, and forgetting that I need to go look at them and approve them before they appear. DUH! I am glad you enjoyed the post and want to keep reading. I’ll try to provide more “exotic and sensual” stories! 🙂
Now that I went back and read your intro, I see where you’re going with this. What an interesting group of topics! Can’t wait to read more!
Thanks, Nirvana! I’m glad someone is enjoying my trip down memory lane!
Well my girl, I finally started reading your Blog. I must say, for the record, that I am so very proud of you for going forward and pursuing yet another of your dreams. You know I love your writing and particularly your chosen topics – and I loved the beginning. I will keep in touch and spread the word to my compatriots.
Congrats, LUV Ena
Thank you, Ena! It’s amazing how fun it is! I know someone else who is a very good writer and could use a convenient forum for her wise thoughts (hint hint)! 🙂 Anyway, I so appreciate your encouragement, and thanks in advance for spreading the word.
What an intriguing concoction of topics! This certainly captivates the mind and I look forward to reading your book. Hopefully you’ll return from hiatus and continue sharing your insight as your book release date approaches.
First I need to find an agent or editor, but I’m looking! I’m glad you find the topics intriguing, John. Thanks for reading.
Technically, there’s a concept known as margin of diminishing returns where at some point, it stops being sweet and goes downhill from there
Oh, you scientists! Let’s hope that’s not true for my blog. 🙂
It is really interesting to read this article!!!I was hoping to buy the “Licking the Spoon” book and ask for you signature:) so I can brag about it to my friend. However, I will be one of your buyers
when the book published.
I am sure that your book is going to be amazing and have a great success ! You are such an inspiration!
I hope I inspire you to do the things you dream of doing!
Its cool to see how far you’ve progressed in your book, blog and life!
It’s hard to find time to write, but I keep trying. As for life, it goes on. Do we want it to be a good one or a bad one?
I think the last lick is the sweetest.
See? Everyone has an opinion, Derek! 🙂
Hmm even more encouragement to buy your book!
I hope you get that chance! 🙂
Love your style of writing! Can’t wait until you publish your book!
Wow, you went way back! Thank you!
Beautiful introduction to a wonderful blog. (:
I remember sitting there with my young computer whiz who set it up for me and he said, “OK, now write your first one.” Aacckkk!!! I wasn’t sure what to write, so I just started describing my process.
Such a good topic! is your book finished?
is the book out yet by chance?
No it isn’t, and in fact, I’m now focusing on a different book (if you look under Books in Progress, there is a sample from it; it’s The Year of You.)
I think starting an online presence is a great way to put yourself and your work out there.
Nowadays it’s pretty much required! Especially if you write nonfiction – you either have to be famous or have a huge following for a publisher to consider you.
Ahahah nice work the blog is interesting wow this blog pointed out so much stuff. Thanks for Writing..
It’s been a really fun project!
I wanted to read your first post, and I hope you are proud of keeping your blog running for almost a decade now! I hope you don’t consider yourself a technophobe anymore and found a new appreciation for how technology (computers and the internet in this case) is definitely one of the coolest and most helpful things we humans have come up with.
Wow, a decade! I hadn’t even thought of that. Sadly, I still have a love/hate relationship with technology. Thanks for reading!
It is a very good introduction to this blog. I am happy that you have continued with the blog and I hope it will be for many more years. You inspired me to do the things I dream of doing.
The topics of this blog are very interesting that I want to keep reading,
I am sure that your book will be a great success!!
The book has changed since I started the blog. I was writing about food and sex, but then I started a memoir about my first love in college. Thanks for reading!
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